Letter writer doesn’t know how to deal with co-workers’ comments.
I work for a municipality, and although I am fairly new to my specific job, I am not new to municipal government. However, this is a very small city, and the work environment is close quarters.Whether because of the city’s size or just the mentality of the people employed here, it is not a very open-minded workplace.
When I don’t participate in my co-workers’ conversations, even walking away when a conversation around me takes a less-than-accepting tone, they tend to glare at me. I don’t really fit in, and I feel uncomfortable at work all the time.This job is my only source of income, but I certainly don’t feel fulfilled here. I also don’t feel safe expressing my own personal thoughts or ideas around my co-workers.
Miss Manners will, instead, answer your question, which is about how to interact with people whose beliefs you find objectionable — without losing either your dignity or your job.The answer is to maintain a professional distance, which is almost the last thing people think of doing in a professional situation. If the behavior is objectionable enough to affect others, as opposed to their grousing among themselves, you may someday have to say so.
That describes who we are, but does not adequately describe our relationship. We certainly are friends, but we are much more. We are family united by our children. We can think of no one word to describe that relationship. Can you?counts as one word or three, Miss Manners would have thought the phrase “my daughter’s mother-in-law” sufficiently succinct.
The real question is, given the warm feelings you share toward each other, is that description more, or less, demonstrative than calling you a friend? Even relatives can disagree on this point.Ask Elaine: Is my dream job worth dealing with my toxic co-founder?‘Freak of nature’ tree is the find of a lifetime for forest explorer
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